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With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, I figured I post about it now in hopes that some of you might get an early start.

Before the business of celebrating romance may I suggest we start by brightening someone’s day.  Kiss your partner a moment longer before he/she leaves the house.  Visit an orphanage or nursing home, or the children’s cancer ward.  You decide.

As for romance,  stop nagging about the commercial nature of Valentine’s Day.  “Let’s fall in love, why shouldn’t we fall in love.  Let’s close our eyes and make our own paradise.” or as Cole Porter sings: “Birds do it, bees do it, Even educated fleas do it
Let’s do it, let’s fall in love.”

I say For this Valentine’s Day we resolve to push our sexual boundaries, even if it is just a little.  Try something new with your partner without having all those rules and regulations.

Give each other the gift of your body, just the way it is and enjoy every part of one another.

Perhaps you keep the lights on this time.

Or, actually look into your partner’s eyes.

Share food.  Interpret that however you wish.  Hint: think a chocolate kiss.  Make the chocolate Teuscher’s Champagne truffle (two aphrodisiacs in one).

You don’t want to go out to dinner?  No problem. Do a dinner at home.  Dress up for one another (so you can rip it off later).  Do a picnic at home.  I once saw a young couple, sitting on the floor in the toy section of Barnes and Nobles with their sandwiches.  They just enjoyed each other’s company and conversation.

Gentlemen: be so present when you are with her that she can let go.

Ladies: Go for it.  Just surrender

Gentlemen: Wake her up with a kiss and go watch the sunrise together.

Ladies: Wake him up in the middle of the night and have your way with him.

Dare to play in the full spectrum.  From pastels to bright reds.  Explore, explore, explore.  This is your partner.  Who else can you be with so freely?

Age is not an excuse.  I once heard on the news about an 85-year-old man marrying his love who was 84.  By then there were both in rehab. 

What are you waiting for?

Body size and shape are not excuses either.  Lingerie comes in all shapes and sizes.

Nor is the length of time you have been together.  Remember this is the person you waited by the phone, for.  The one who made your heart skip a beat.  Reminisce about those moments and see what happens.  Become epic lovers, like those we always read about.  Create your own love story.

Gentlemen: as lame as gifts may be, we still love receiving them, especially when they come from you.  Something that shows you remembered.  Even if it is one flower.

We might even surprise you with rose petals on the bed.

As for my single cohorts, let nothing stand in your way of celebrating this beautiful occasion.

In the words of our Yoga teacher:  Fall in love with yourself. 

Give you a bouquet of flowers.  How about those playful peonies if you are not in the mood for roses?

You wish for chocolates?  Great.  Get your favorite kind.  If you are in Boston try a champagne truffle from Teuscher.  They are just phenomenal.

How about a candle light dinner?  Yes for you.

Buy some new lingerie that makes you feel sexy.

Here’s another one: try a professional nude photo shoot.   You will not regret this.  Years from now you will smile at your courage to try something new.  Actually, couples should consider this too.  It doesn’t even have to be professional.  Take each other’s picture.

Now go out and spread some love.

Wish you all a Happy Valentine’s Day.